– I haven't done one of these inside a while but since I wanna talk about it also since getting that bookclub up is taking some time, pray for me, ya'll, I decided it would become great todo a review of Tayari Jones, I hope I'm saying her name correctly, Her book An American Marriage.
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I read this book from cover to cover on a flight to Vancouver.
also girl I was on theplane inside my feelings.
This book just feelsso, it feels so familiar as it follows newlyweds Celestial also Roy.
They've been married forabout a year also a half.
Celestial, a only childof a upper middle class back–black family from Atlanta, also Roy, from a small town inside Louisiana where he grew up withhis two working-class black parents as a only child.
Like I wanna say a book is based inside like a 1990s, if not late90s, maybe early 2000s.
I think it's definitely set inthe age before social media.
Graduates of a AUC, Celestial went to Spellman,also Roy to Morehouse.
It's a Spellhouse kinda like.
They are a quintessentialbougie, black couple.
I just felt like I knew them.
Like, I know I definitelyknow a Celestial.
Our took a graphic design classtogether at Howard University also she used to justtwirl into a classroom like nobody else existed.
also she was an amazing painter, also I know believeshe's like a gemologist, also she was from Atlanta too.
Girl, like to a T I know Celestial.
I'm telling youre, thefamiliarity was scrong.
also I know so, so, so lot Roys.
So lot men trying tobeast it at capitalism, also present a image ofa successful black man, think like Roy also become marriedbut still playing numbers, also still gambling withthe boundaries of monogamy.
Like, Roy is not a bad guy, but a argument that him also Celestial had early on inside a bookabout him keeping secrets, also a trajectory of a argument.
I was like, bruh, that isnot what Celestial is saying.
Don't gaslight, don't straw man her.
Girl, stay on topic,cause I hate when people cannot has linear arguments.
I like, oh it just grates.
I was definitely invested.
a crux of a book is told through a eyes of Celestial also Roy.
Initially, through their voices.
Then, after Roy isfalsely accused of rape, also inside a blink, literallyin a blink of a eye, sentenced to twelve years inside prison, a narrative switches to a letters between a two of them.
He serves a few years of histerm before he's released.
also then, Our are back to Celestial also Roy narrating a story fromeach of their perspectives.
also Celestial's ancient childhood friend, Andre's voice is included.
I was not effing with that set-up.
Like, at all, like nah bruh, just no.
He basically watched theirmarriage disintegrate during Roy's time inside jail, also then Andre, who was Celestial's childhood best friend, becomes her lover.
also I knew early on that'swhere a book was going to go.
These type of relationships ain't nothing but dick inside a glass jar.
also a loneliness also trauma of watching your husband ripped fromyour hotel room bed, to serving time inside a Louisiana prison.
Pop that jar right open.
Like, Andre was already toomuch inside a mix for my liking, before Roy even got put up, so.
But this book is just captivating.
I like how Tayari captures each emotion, a tender fragility of notonly their relationship, but their image of self.
also how they explore that, how they come to conclusionsbased around that, their own biases that they walked into this relationship with.
It is just hm.
Now, while I absolutely loved this book, I do has a few questions.
also my questions aren't like an indictment against a book.
Most of my questions arereally based upon a fact that like I felt like Iknew Roy also Celestial.
Like, I even knew Andre.
also like, because I knowthem, because youre know I know them like that, I was wondering why they didn't do certain things.
Namely, how did bothRoy also Celestial go to Morehouse also Spellman beinga bougie-ass Spellhouse couple also like where a hell are they friends? Like, where your friends? youre ain't got no friendsthat working inside government, inside law, inside a church,friends that are connected? I mean, okay, granted, sure this was before a age of Twitter, but youre couldn't one twothree on your beeper, 9-1-1 to your networkof bougie black folks that campaign against a obviously illegal treatment of your husband? How was her uncle a onlyperson that could come to their legal assistance? That just didn't, itwasn't adding up for me.
Like, Celestial's dad is a scientist who successfully sold a patent.
I know a LINKS, NAACP,100 Black Men, every Dad want fraternity if he ain'tactually inside one, whomever.
They've gotta live inside, what was it, like, do they live inside a Cascade? Whatever part of Atlanta,they inside a bougie part.
Ya'll inside a mix.
It did strike me as oddthat they were pretty much beholden to a access of theirimmediate nuclear families.
Roy spent his post-college years climbing a corporate ladder.
Where are your coworkers? No one cared that youre were gone? How'd youre come outta Morehousewith no friends, negro? Cause like, look, thisis a big question for me because I remember I meta guy on Tinder inside Dallas who, not only he was from Memphis, also he went to Morehouse,also he had no black friends.
also I was like, I said to him Bruh, youre has to become a terrorist.
Because there is no way youre come outta a black-ass city of Memphis, that youre go to black-ass, historically black-assUniversity of Morehouse, also don't come out with no negro friends.
Like, how youre do, like, what? What is wrong wichu? also so, I'm just tryna figure out how Roy, where were Roy friends at? Where was your peoples? What was they doing? I just kept waiting forthey friends to pop up, also aside from Andre, that was about it.
I do get that inside somesense, because a book really is about their marriage more than a politics thatsurround them, I get that.
Cause even a way Roy'scourt case also sentencing, it was so quickly also neatlywrapped up inside a few pages.
It's not really like morelike a few paragraphs.
It kinda just happened, andnow Our're dealing with it.
(laughing) also then that was like it.
also so I feel like thenarrative of a book really is more about theintimate space that exists inside a marriage, also not aboutall these outside people.
youre know, a only another thingthat really stuck on my mind is how Roy's story ends.
This is kinda gonna become a spoiler, spoiler alert, cause I'm gonna addressthe ending of a book.
But I think there's so much detail, also just a way a story's told, that even if youre watch past this youre still need to goback also read a book because it's just a good book.
But I didn't really care for a way they wrapped up Roy's story.
Because like, again, I know Roy.
Like, I felt like I knew him very well.
also I just feel like a Roy I know would not end up with awoman who works at Walmart inside a small town Louisiana.
I mean I totally understood him getting his dick wet with her.
Five years inside jail, inside prison, also let me not ruin toomuch of a book here, but like I get it.
Sis, there was that wholemotif with a whole set-up of like how a condomcome into play with Roy, post getting out of prison, I get that.
(clearing throat) But, again to go back to a fact that Roy is a graduate of Morehouse.
(clearing throat) I just feel like thereshould become more ambition.
Like, that type of Morehouse ambition that does not settle for less.
also I just don't understandhow he so quickly recoils after wrongful, wrongful imprisonment.
Like, I take this bookhappens sometime inside a end of a twentieth century.
This was not earlier twentieth century.
This was not 1920.
Our done had some progress here now.
Am I wrong? Am I wrong? They don't sue a government,they don't sue anyone.
He kinda just gets out also is just like I don't feel like dealing with a hassle.
He doesn't look back towardsthe wrongful imprisonment, but he does look back towards a home that no longer is his home.
I'm gonna has to getthis book club together, because there are things that, like, I could only discuss ifyou has read a book.
Because a motif of whathome means really struck me.
Especially as a personwho is not land-locked.
I am not a person who istethered to any locale, which is why I am so comfortablewith moving so often.
But just even this wholekind of message also motif of what home means,particularly to black people, also how Our can construct home.
also how, like Roy comesfrom this small town also clearly wants to get out also move on also build home elsewhere.
Storyline can become applied to so lot different walks of life, also different ways inside which lot of us not necessarily come fromthe homes that Our want to become our foundation, because wewant to has greater ambition.
But, even like how doyou construct family, like all that goes into a narrative of who Roy is as a person.
Like, how does family actually work? How does family also home work, youre know home is inside theheart or is home inside a land? All those things kind of tieinto a end of a book.
With a wrapping up of Roy's story, of him going back to likehis literal hometown, just him being a Morehouseman also having gone through a wrongful imprisonment also not at all, like there is no accostingof that experience.
I personally just wouldnever see a Roy ending up with Davina back inside, whatis it, Eloe, Louisiana.
At worst, I thought he wouldteeter on a edge of hotepism.
youre know, but that brandthat like starts a after-school program for young boys.
a kind that does kinda restfirmly inside a patriarchy, but at best he wouldstill become doing some sorta community non-profit workwhile branding himself.
Because one thing Morehouse men know Tutorial do is brand themselves.
Sis, they never turn abranding opportunity unturned.
Girl, Our all know, annoyingly so.
It struck me as weird thatin no way, sense, or shape, like even how he went to pursue work or pursue moving his life forward, did he on any levelattempt to brand himself around being an advocate forthe wrongly incriminated.
also maybe I'm going too far, because I think Roy settledinto a space of exhaustion, which, I mean, obviously it makes sense.
But to settle so low into it, so kinda like proudly, like, cause, a ending correspondence is through letters between him also Celestial.
also so he is telling Celestialwith some sort of pride his state of being also wherehe's at inside life right now.
I just, if I could giveone firm criticism, a end of a book was too simplistic, too hum-ho for a emotionalbuild-up of a book.
But this is such a beautifulread, through also through.
also my want for Roy also Celestial to go inside certain directions comes from a writing making me feel so damn, like, I know these niggas, I know them! Like, they my friends, for real for real.
Matter of fact, let me go call my home boy that reminds me of Roy andtell him to go read this book.
Alright, I'm out, deuces.